I was bored at home and decided to take a walk at the beach .  Behold the blue waters were there. I sat on the sand quietly and did my observation. Here is what I found out;

1.The ocean is very beautiful from far I must say but when you are close to it, it’s the most breathtaking view in the world. It absorbs your mind and you might feel scared. Some people have a phobia for oceans and can not even come close to it, I now understand why. They think they might drown when they are close so they watch from far. That’s how the ocean is,very scary.

2. There is no exact rhythm of the waves. Each wave have their own metronome. They are beautiful to watch even when one is not in the mood. But again, when the tides are high the waves become large in size which can be risky when swimming.

3. You can do a lot at the ocean from swimming, playing, working out or just sitting and relaxing.  People come from far to enjoy the sweet breeze, cool waters and some lone time here. When you are stressed or just bored take a stroll to the ocean if you are around and you will never regret it. Be assured that your troubles will be swept away and you will feel whole again. Your heavy heart will be soothed .

 4. You stare at the edge of the blue waters for long and you can not remember why you got lost wondering. Your mind wonders and for a moment you feel like you are in another world. The sound of the waters give you an inspiration. You feel at peace even when you are troubled. It has magic I swear.

5. The cool breeze that hit your face and the whole body. So relaxing I must say. You feel refreshed. It also has a smell, a very unique smell . You can do a lot of thinking while staring at the ocean. Ever wondered why the waters are always salty ? How about why the oceans are always blue?  I dropped Geography in school so I don’t have answers right now. 

Take a step today and have some fun at the ocean. You can also take your significant others or even family. When you are far from it you can always take a vacation . Try it once when you can not think straight, when you going through a tough moment,when lonely or just bored. It will heal your heart and  soul. You will go home as a different person trust me. 


It won’t last; it will be gone real quick

Am certain the pain won’t stick

You’ll be back on top in no time

I need to see you smile everytime

Just know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
When it hurts it’s okay to cry

Don’t worry just wipe your eye

Soon you will be okay

That’s how Mama used to say.
Just have a good bed rest

This will help you recover your strength

You’ll feel better again

I just wanted to write you this

To encourage you to be strong.

I know I can give you something

That will keep you happy and blushing

Something the doctor can’t give

Warm hugs and precious smiles

Get well and make my prayers come true.


I sat down wondering what to get my pens on this time then this topic popped in my mind and I could not let it go;campus love. I had to play my cards  well and here is my thought on the same.

When one is joining campus as a freshman,his/her mind is filled with big dreams and ambitions he/she would like to achieve at the end of their education. Most of these freshmen join when they are still virgins and look very innocent in most situations. As time goes they find themselves in the opposite direction of things done by their fellows and so they are filled with curious minds and would like to try out what their peers are doing.

I named this stage “Trial and Error”. This is when  they try doing everything they could not do at home because of their parents, now the freedom they have allows them to  . It feels good to them because this is the kind of life they wanted and could not get. Some start drinking like their friends so that they can fit in. They do not want to look primitive. They want to be modern. This is the time that virgins also break their virginity. After all they are not kids any more so they would say. I know of some who broke their virginity on their first week in campus and as a freshman and months later tested positive and they could not bring back the joy they had before. So sad because when one is drunk the thinking changes they can do anything at that time and that’s when they get  dragged into having sex. That’s what happened to my friends and to date they have a story to tell because they were also lured by friends and in return what did they get out of that? Hiv positive.

When in their sophomore years they are now mature enough to know what they want but again it’s never that easy. This is a dangerous stage. This is a “Perfection” stage. What they did as freshmen is now being perfected. They become confident and this is when they either fall in love with the right or wrong people. This is when they will break up with this person this week and in the next week he or she will be with someone else and life goes on. The ones who were too shy are not shy anymore. Here, the wardrobe also changes. They start dressing to kill and can not   mingle with people who are not of their calibre. Those who used to be in the Christian Union can not be seen there anymore, they have changed in everything even their attitude.

There is so much that happens to the lovers in this case. Those who live a double life as well. They have their campus lovers but also their Other lovers back at home or even those out of their age bracket, “sponsors” as they are called these days. You wonder why all these unnecessary lovers are needed anyway,but it’s not your life,it’s theirs as you will be told. Most people destroy their future here right in their faces. All these relationships become a burden to them so much that they cannot even concentrate in class. Here you are in class your campus lover wants to see you after classes,your lover from home  calls to say  hello and in a nanosecond your sponsor calls and says he wants’ to see you at that particular time. Your mind is blowing up and can not be in class so you leave. Your parents back  home know that you are in school studying but in real sense you are not. When you sit down and look deeply in your situations you realise that’s not who you want to be but again you are used to that lifestyle and you can not leave it behind. In most cases the ladies suffer more than  the men.

By the time you are tired of all these,it will be too late. May be you would be infected by STDs or even HIV who knows.

I know of ladies who aborted more than thrice in campus and they regret such decisions because they are married but can not have kids . Those who were madly in love with the wrong people also realized and had to break up before regretting. These hard decisions are sometimes good because they make you be the person you are and not the person you are not.

All in all there are also good relationships from campus in. Some serious people get their life partners from campus and decide to be together till death separates them,beautiful right? Some also end up in engagement.

All am saying is while in campus be in a healthy relationship you can be proud of some day. Even if you do not end up together but at least you will  have some experience in a healthy relationship. All the best and am wishing you happiness and a healthy relationship


Your presence makes my life complete,

Promise me you’ll never leave my side,

When in any kind of sorrow or tide,

You bring magic into my life and make me alive,

I pray that you’ll love me forever .


Empty,that’s how I feel without you,

You are the one I’ve been searching for,

The one just meant for me,

Hold on me forever,

Never let go of me,

I want to be with you forever .


I love you not because of what you have,

But because of what I feel when I’m around you,

Don’t make me wait any longer,

Promise to hold my hand forever.


When am with you everything in my world seems different,

The sorrows slowly fades away,

The peace that come’s when am with you is amazing,

I am forever grateful for the happiness you’ve brought in my life,

I want you to love me forever.


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It’s so sad how women or single ladies lie to their kids about their biological fathers.What they do not know is that someday the child will need the truth and it will surely come out whether they like it or not.

Most women tell their kids that their father died a long time ago when they know that is not the truth. I know of a lady who took her child to a cemetery and chose a random tomb to show her kid where the father was burried and in real sense the father was alive.

But why do women tell all these lies to the kids? The kids have a right to know their fathers its not your child’s fault it is your fault dont purnish your children.Even if the father is a nobody just tell them they will respect that.

Imagine in a scenario where you lie and the child someday comes to know the truth how will you explain yourself? The child will be very bitter and might even leave you to follow the dad after being with him or her for all those years.

My verdict,However difficult or embarrassing the situation in which the fathers might be , just tell your children the truth even if he is a mad man or a polygamous father just tell them and they will never bother you again unless they want explanations to what might have led to that.Your Children will be very much okay even if it hurts but atleast they know whom their father is.

Women lets not lie to our kids,they have a right to know their fathers after all what do you achieve in lying?Nothing at all so the truth will set you free. Free from being haunted by your childrens’ questions.